It's not a new phenomenon to feel as though happiness/values are put in an antithesis to making money... Exceptional free read of the 5th instalment in the Mother-Artist column
It's amazing to see your post as I am experiencing some annoyance from some advice I have received from two close friends that were so off base for me. While I appreciate they were trying to help, it hit me how much we don't understand other's full life experience. The advice was so off, I felt like they didn't even hear what I just had said, but they don't know what it's like to have my autoimmune health issues and the work I do the work I do. They said the advice with such conviction and authority too! And all they were doing was trying to help and be supportive. It made me think how much more strongly I need to listen to my heart, my gut, and hold on to my sovereignty and be okay with not being fully heard and understood because it just isn't possible. It also made me realize I must have given some annoying, unsolicited advice too. :) It's definitely a big realization about what I tell people too.
Thank you so much Beth for sharing your story! It’s tuff when the unsolicited advice comes from friends while we expect to know us better… equally humbling when reflecting on times we might’ve done the same without realizing 💕
Elin, as a first time mom, I’m so glad I subscribed to you and had the opportunity to read this part. It gave me so much comfort. I felt validated about my decisions to follow beyond the supposed rules. I’ll keep looking forward to such comforting stories.
Thank you so much I’m very glad to have you here with me! Cheering you on, I found the first one to be the hardest as the transition from maiden to mother goes through so many layers 🙏🏼🫣
I enjoyed reading this, thank you! I chose to become stay at home mum and let my corporate career go, because it didn't feel right. But now, intending to run my own business, doing what I am passionate about, the fears creep in - can I do it while still being present with my kids? And it's lovely to see that there are women out there doing it!
You can absolutely do it and still be present 🥰 it’s a matter (for me) of finding the little pockets. I tend to worm after they sleep, during naptime or other random pockets even if it sometimes is just for 10 minutes. I also include them as much as I can in the work - mostly the physical art making. What do you feel called to do? xx
It is so admirable that you are running a business and writing every day with little ones, Elin!
I've been very passionate about Ayurveda (system of traditional medicine, you could call it Yoga's sister). It helped me so much during conception, pregnancy and postpartum times, so I would really like to keep spreading the knowledge. I am not sure in which form yet - as a clinic or as a teacher / writer. I'm relaxing into it, allowing whatever is needing to come through to take place.
I can’t help but think that technology has just made everything too easy, so we’ve just become rather lazy. Nothing seems to require much effort anymore, so I think as a result of that, a lot of people just don’t bother.
Elin, I think your words ring true for so many of us who listen to our inner voice regardless of well meaning yet unsolicited advice. Many people speak without being asked, when they should listen without speaking.
I really loved reading this. It landed in my inbox just as I opened it and it felt like it arrived at the right moment. My biggest take away was when you shared "To fail to recognise nuances in our existence is perhaps one of the pandemics of our time." Thank you Elin :)
As somebody from-before-digitality, and a (relatively to my time) very young Mom-and knowing the experience of my Mom, Grandma et al-it seems thar endless unsolicited advice is as old as time itself.
it can be very amusing, -and it can be really cruel, depending on the circumstances.
It was amusing,for example, when I sat with my daughter, then a baby, on a bus stop, and every second passing woman said "I think the baby might be hot. I'd take off her jacket if I were you" or "I think the baby might be cold, I'd put on her jacket if I were you"-I indeed complacently took her jacket off-put it back on, until I thought "great, ladies, but you're not me"))
I think it must have been awful when my Mom was dying of hunger during WW2 and Grandma was fighting for her life, and women (it was some ship or something, so many strangers) would be telling Grandma "let go; nothing to do here, you'll have other kids, why being so stubborn, why cry"
It stems from good intentions, mostly, or desire to share, maybe, or...?
I very much agree on being born to "different" parents.
Yes unsolicited advice must definitely be as old as humanity don’t you think!
Thank you for sharing such striking examples, the first indeed very amusing in its absurdity because yes, you’re the only one who knows whether your baby is hot or cold…
And the second made my heart wrench as I can only imagine the fight, and what a fight worth fighting for! I can’t believe others advices to let to - thankfully your grandmother didn’t listen 🙏🏼
It's amazing to see your post as I am experiencing some annoyance from some advice I have received from two close friends that were so off base for me. While I appreciate they were trying to help, it hit me how much we don't understand other's full life experience. The advice was so off, I felt like they didn't even hear what I just had said, but they don't know what it's like to have my autoimmune health issues and the work I do the work I do. They said the advice with such conviction and authority too! And all they were doing was trying to help and be supportive. It made me think how much more strongly I need to listen to my heart, my gut, and hold on to my sovereignty and be okay with not being fully heard and understood because it just isn't possible. It also made me realize I must have given some annoying, unsolicited advice too. :) It's definitely a big realization about what I tell people too.
Thank you so much Beth for sharing your story! It’s tuff when the unsolicited advice comes from friends while we expect to know us better… equally humbling when reflecting on times we might’ve done the same without realizing 💕
Elin, as a first time mom, I’m so glad I subscribed to you and had the opportunity to read this part. It gave me so much comfort. I felt validated about my decisions to follow beyond the supposed rules. I’ll keep looking forward to such comforting stories.
Thank you so much I’m very glad to have you here with me! Cheering you on, I found the first one to be the hardest as the transition from maiden to mother goes through so many layers 🙏🏼🫣
I enjoyed reading this, thank you! I chose to become stay at home mum and let my corporate career go, because it didn't feel right. But now, intending to run my own business, doing what I am passionate about, the fears creep in - can I do it while still being present with my kids? And it's lovely to see that there are women out there doing it!
Also "eye-roll" for all the unsolicited advice 🙄
You can absolutely do it and still be present 🥰 it’s a matter (for me) of finding the little pockets. I tend to worm after they sleep, during naptime or other random pockets even if it sometimes is just for 10 minutes. I also include them as much as I can in the work - mostly the physical art making. What do you feel called to do? xx
It is so admirable that you are running a business and writing every day with little ones, Elin!
I've been very passionate about Ayurveda (system of traditional medicine, you could call it Yoga's sister). It helped me so much during conception, pregnancy and postpartum times, so I would really like to keep spreading the knowledge. I am not sure in which form yet - as a clinic or as a teacher / writer. I'm relaxing into it, allowing whatever is needing to come through to take place.
Thank you for always sharing your learnings. It gives us hope and permission to do things that feel right, rather than what the world expects. 💫
Thank you Mika for being here, it’s a topic that is so so close to my heart and I might never bore of writing about it 🙏🏼💕
We absolutely have become too superficial!
I think so! Would you say it’s due to social media infiltrating culture?
I can’t help but think that technology has just made everything too easy, so we’ve just become rather lazy. Nothing seems to require much effort anymore, so I think as a result of that, a lot of people just don’t bother.
Elin, I think your words ring true for so many of us who listen to our inner voice regardless of well meaning yet unsolicited advice. Many people speak without being asked, when they should listen without speaking.
Speaking is silver and listening is gold (I’m sure this isn’t just a proverb that exists in Swedish!) you’re so right 🙏🏼💕
I really loved reading this. It landed in my inbox just as I opened it and it felt like it arrived at the right moment. My biggest take away was when you shared "To fail to recognise nuances in our existence is perhaps one of the pandemics of our time." Thank you Elin :)
Thank you so much Emma! I’m so glad it ended in your inbox at the perfect moment, aren’t those reads the best?
Indeed nuance… it could be an entire column on its own 🙏🏼
I'd love to read an article on it!
I’ll have to ponder on this… stay tuned ✨🥰
As somebody from-before-digitality, and a (relatively to my time) very young Mom-and knowing the experience of my Mom, Grandma et al-it seems thar endless unsolicited advice is as old as time itself.
it can be very amusing, -and it can be really cruel, depending on the circumstances.
It was amusing,for example, when I sat with my daughter, then a baby, on a bus stop, and every second passing woman said "I think the baby might be hot. I'd take off her jacket if I were you" or "I think the baby might be cold, I'd put on her jacket if I were you"-I indeed complacently took her jacket off-put it back on, until I thought "great, ladies, but you're not me"))
I think it must have been awful when my Mom was dying of hunger during WW2 and Grandma was fighting for her life, and women (it was some ship or something, so many strangers) would be telling Grandma "let go; nothing to do here, you'll have other kids, why being so stubborn, why cry"
It stems from good intentions, mostly, or desire to share, maybe, or...?
I very much agree on being born to "different" parents.
Yes unsolicited advice must definitely be as old as humanity don’t you think!
Thank you for sharing such striking examples, the first indeed very amusing in its absurdity because yes, you’re the only one who knows whether your baby is hot or cold…
And the second made my heart wrench as I can only imagine the fight, and what a fight worth fighting for! I can’t believe others advices to let to - thankfully your grandmother didn’t listen 🙏🏼
Thanks for being here!